WHAT OTHERS SAY ABOUT YOU DOESN'T MATTER

“In the end, people will judge you anyway. Don’t live your life impressing others. Live your life impressing yourself” – Alexander BusyBrain 

From the beginning of the world, men have been jealous of one another, men have criticized one another; so it is not a new thing to hear criticisms from your friends, parents, teachers, lecturers etc. But it only gets bad when you let these negative words and acts get to you. 

In fact, it should make you happy to know that people are even saying things about you because it means you are doing something. 2face in his song with MI “Nobody” said “If nobody talks about you, then you are nobody”. So, people talking about you, whether positively or negatively is good news. It means you are somebody. Cynthia Occelli said “When people undermine your dreams, predict your doom or criticize you, remember they are telling you their story, not yours”. 

Even Jesus, perfect in love and motives, was criticized and misunderstood continually. People called Him a glutton (Matthew 11:19), people called Him a drunkard (Luke 7:34), people criticized Him for associating with sinners (Matthew 9:11) and accused Him of having a demon (John 8:48). But, in spite of experiencing misunderstanding, ingratitude and rejection, our Lord Jesus never became bitter or discouraged. He saw every obstacle as an opportunity; an opportunity to heal the sick; an opportunity to show love to sinners; an opportunity to forgive sinners; Jesus turned every trial into triumphs. You should do the same. Be yourself no matter what other people say. God made you the way you are for a reason. Besides, an original is always worth more than a copy. 

Believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe in you. Never give up on what you really want to do. The person with big dreams is more powerful than the one with all of the facts. Walter Gagehot wrote “A great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do”. 

On how to discover those seed of greatness that God had planted in you right from birth, read and download for free TALENT - THE BOMB by ALEXANDER BUSYBRAIN.

10 UNIQUE STEPS TO SELF DEVELOPMENT

Do not get obsolete like an old technology, keep innovating yourself. - Sukant Ratnakar

FRIENDS 

Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gift and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot. 

Also make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.

LOVE AND KINDNESS 

Show love and kindness to everyone. Respect those above you and also those below you. Some small boys today will be big boys tomorrow. The biggest dog in the neighborhood was once a puppy. And keep the information/secret to yourself.

Also put control over your mouth, never say evil of any man, what you are not certain of should not be said. Say good of all men.

READING 

Make sure at every point in time you are reading a book. Any book, but mostly books about your field of study or work and inspirational books. If you spend 20 minutes reading daily, for 52 weeks you would have consumed 1,000,000 words.

Also make it a habit of keeping a pen and a writing pad handy because ideas come in the form of flashes. The smallest pen is bigger and better than the biggest brain.

TELEVISION 

Stay away from television as much as possible. You can watch educational channels. Men with big TV sits in front of them to watch men with big library. Remember anytime you are watching the television, the person on the TV screen is doing something better than you. 

LISTEN

Listen to speeches and messages from great teachers. Both religious and educational. Also attend seminars and training on any area you need to improve yourself. Train the trainer, personal development, public speaking, sales etc.

DEBT

Live a debt free life. What you can’t pay cash for is not your size. Give out loans that you can part with as gift, so that you don’t destroy your business and relationships over it. 

INCOME

Create legitimate multiple source of income. Save at least 10 percent of your income. Invest a portion of your income. And be patient to see it grow. If what you have in your hands is not good to be called a harvest then it’s a seed, sow it. Keep a good financial record of all income and expenses, so you won’t ask later “where did my money go”. 

MENTOR 

For everything you are about to do or achieve, there is someone who has already done it or achieved it. Great men in history all had mentors that made them what they are. 

So get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.

EXERCISE 

Make sure you engage in exercise. Go for a walk or jog, engage in any sport activity, visit the gym. It keeps your brain alert and your body fit to enjoy your success. Also keep a good personal hygiene. For cleanliness is next to Godliness. 

PRAYER

The most important of them all - Prayer. Pray often, and know that for every success, there is a stronger being (God) that made it possible.

Am not all-knowing, I just laid out all I know and what is working for me. Please feel free to comment and add up any step you think i left out or even your own steps (what's working for you). 

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